Day 19 – Engage in safety planning



Did you know that between 31 and 50% of trans people experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime?  This data is from a November 2015 report from The Williams Institute, “Intimate Partner Violence and Sexual Abuse Among LGBT People: A review of existing research.”

When intimate partner violence occurs, it is not your fault.

Many people believe that violence most frequently happens from strangers.  The reality is that most types of violence are perpetrated by someone we know (including many hate crimes). There are tangible things you can do to reduce your risk of experiencing intimate partner violence.

What actions can you take?

If you think you might be in an abusive relationship,

  1. Read through “Safety Planning: A Guide for Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Individuals who are experiencing intimate partner violence.” Figure out what steps you might take to help increase your own safety. [Consider working through this safety planning tool with a friend, therapist, or someone you like and trust.]
  2. Determine at least one person or one place where you can go if you are in immediate danger.

If you suspect someone you know is in an abusive relationship,

  1. Read about trans-specific tactics
  2. Offer to work through the Safety Planning Tool with your friend
  3. Remember that engaging the police can be more dangerous for trans/non-binary people (especially those who are people of color, who are undocumented, or whose identities are in many marginalized categories). Find ways to support and provide safety without calling law enforcement.

If you are a provider, familiarize yourself with trans-specific power and control tactics by

  1. Reading “FAQ: Safety Planning with Transgender Clients
  2. Viewing the recorded webinar: “Safety planning with transgender clients

Not in a relationship, but dating?  Check out and use the safe(r) dating tips from this handout, specifically designed for trans and gender non-binary people:

Take Action!

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